tlogirl asked: I'm curious if you went thru a tough time when the boys were 3-4 yrs old? We have a 3.5 yr-old boy. A yr ago he was challenging but mostly sweet & fairly easily diverted from mayhem. In the past 5 months he's morphed into one of those purple minions from the 2nd Despicable Me movie. No volume control, endless energy, a tiny tornado of destruction always wrestling, play fighting & hell bent on getting what he wants. Will our sweet little dude ever come back? Have we lost him to the dark side?
Yes, we did. And again at 5-years-old. And 5½. And from conversations I’ve had with other parents, it basically goes on like this —periods of calm followed by periods of havoc—until the child leaves for college. And also after that.
Your kid is fine. All kids go through these stages. He’s figuring out how the world works and his place in it. Your sweet little dude will comes back, but he’ll have better cognitive and social skills for having battled you.
Solo Night Shifts Begin!
Matt began rehearsals for his play tonight, which means I’m on my own for the day plus tot & baby bedtimes 3 times per week. He leaves for work at 6am, returns at 4:30, leaves around 6pm and returns around 11. Repeat.
So far, though, so good! During his 1.5 hours at home, Matt bathed Maddy and got her PJs on before dinner, so all she needs from me is a tooth brushing & night diaper. I moved dinner to 5:30, so we all ate together. This had the added benefit that he was home to help me clear the table. The early bath was also kinda cool because Maddy’s hair air dried during dinner so she’s less likely to wake up a mess from sleeping with damp hair. Just looking on the bright side!
Then, when Matt left, I turned on some magic known as Winnie the Pooh (1977, because history) and washed dishes while wearing the pajama’ed baby, who fell asleep that way and is now down for the evening. Maddy has been dancing to the movie and talking to the screen.
Now I just sit here until this segment of Pooh ends and we do the tot’s truncated bedtime and, God willing & the creek don’t rise, I should be at my desk gettin’ stuff done with a wine in my hand come 7:45. And folding laundry and straightening the house …
And there’s no husband to distract me! Just looking on the bright side!
Full disclosure: This morning I had a sitter and worked from home until they were up from naps. I love working on something that doesn’t involve pushing a stroller in the heat, and I love earning money. Work days leave me with much more energy in the tank for the kids post nap. So, we’ll see what I’m like this time tomorrow, when I’m 100% with the kids 6am on and Matt isn’t home until after 5 because of an ADR session that just came up and then leaves about 6.
That is what the two D’s are for: Disney and Delivery.